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Success Can Wear Lip Gloss, Too: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Courtesy of Ted Talks/TEDxEuston

The second of today’s blog posts features the famous speech, We Should All Be Feminists, delivered by novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. The talk, delivered in 2013, encourages us to think and talk about gender issues. And of course, the speech garnered one of the world’s biggest name checks by Beyoncé, who used a sample of it in her song, “Flawless.”

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise you will threaten the man.’ Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important.

Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors – not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. Feminist: the person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes.

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